In her latest book, "Men, Love, Fidelity", Maryse says, "Infidelity is essential to the psychic functioning of certain men who are still very much in love, and it can be liberating for women."
So if your husband's been enjoying secret meetings with another woman, don't run after him with a knife.
For all you know, it could improve your marriage. Maryse says that infidelity is not, by definition, proof of love. Agrees engineer Charu Verma*, 29, "We practically spend our lives in office, so naturally, one gets attached to colleagues. And why blame men; women too get into relationships of convenience. I work for 12-15 hours a day, and since I don't get to see my husband often, we started having a lot of fights. I needed emotional support, and a colleague helped me out. Maybe it's wrong for some people, but I wouldn't call it cheating. It took my mind off certain things, and my husband and I are doing fine."
Chirag Bhalla*, 31, a CA, feels there's nothing wrong with an extra-marital affair. "Our wives are so career-oriented that they're willing to work in a different city for a higher position. How are we supposed to control ourselves? And if having an affair helps one lead a normal married life, so be it," says he.
But there are those who do think it's unacceptable. "I have to disagree, because it makes a mockery of faithfulness. If a marriage has to be judged by the number of affairs one's had, why get married at all?" asks 29-year-old HR pro Deborah Steele. Sumanta Mukherjee, 30, thinks "Men are programmed that way and can't help being womanisers. It's not true for everyone, though. Infidelity happens and there are ways to reconcile. But if it doesn't work out, why not try something new?
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